I’ve spent my entire life being the kind of person who was obsessed with whether or not others liked me. I never thought, “Wait a minute! Do I like YOU?!” I realized this flaw recently when after almost two years of giving of my love, time, patience, energy, money and assistance to my three live in step kids (ages 10, 12 and 14) I no longer care if they like/accept me. I’m child-free. I met the kids 7 yrs into our marriage b/c they were in another country and spoke no English. I helped them to come here at their mom (his 1st wife) and dad’s (my husband) request. He is a workaholic and only home about 15 waking min per day. After spending HUNDREDS of hours doing activities with them, talking with them, spending my time, energy, patience, etc. I’ve decided they are lying, deceitful, judgmental, narrow-minded, American-hating, manipulative, sneaky, stealing little beasts. I avoid them to escape their ugly, disrespectful personalities. Do you think this means I must leave my home/marriage?
Take care!